Monday was another crazy busy day. Big Girl had a make-up soccer game at 5:30, and of course, we forgot her soccer bag at the house. So I drove out to the house after the bus dropped her off at my office and we picked up Baby Girl at daycare. I pulled up to the house and only saw 2 turkeys in the yard. One was dead in the turkey house, the other missing one was beat up pretty good and hiding. So I called Hubby. The dogs were at it again. So Hubby made the decision to skip the game and put up an electric fence. It has been up for 3 full days now. And we have not lost anymore poultry! YEAH!! But I felt bad that Hubby missed the game. So I called him to keep him updated, which annoyed him.
I tell you this, because for some reason, it has had a profound effect on me. I spend ALOT of time online. And I have noticed lots of bloggers that I follow talking about being a Proverbs 31 wife. So last week I did some digging on what that meant. She is everything that I want to be! So I decided that I was going to be that woman. So I printed off a reading list that was suggested by a blogger and borrowed two of the titles from my local library.
My eyes have been opened! The first book I read was Love and Respect For a Lifetime, I learned that men really just want respect. If we as women don’t show our husband respect, then they are likely to draw away and not show us the love that we need to see.
I am in the process reading The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. This book talks about women caring and feeding their husbands mentally and spiritually. I think all women should read it, single, married for 5, 15, or 50 years. I was only 2 chapters in last night, when I went out to the living room and apologized to Hubby about neglecting him, he was stunned to say the least. I did not know that I had been putting him on the back-burner until I started reading all the excerpts of callers that Dr. Laura Schlessinger put into the book. Suddenly I realized that these women have similar complaints as I do, then it was these women are just like me, I do that.
There is an interesting part of the book where she writes about “Hurried Woman Syndrome”. It is a real medical syndrome!
“This syndrome has been defined by the symptoms of weight gain, low sex drive, moodiness, and fatigue – all due to the stress caused by trying to do too much, not being able to keep up with it, not feeling ver accomplished at any of it, resenting anyone who had any expectations (like husbands and children), and ending up feeling hostile and depressed.”
WOW! That is me, 100%. And my family suffers, I know this, I see it all the time. The hurt in my kids eyes when I lash out at them from frustration. The pulling away of my husband, when I cannot control my moods, or too tired to even take on even the smallest task for him. I take my job as his helpmeet very seriously, but to find myself pushing him away, that bothers me.
So I guess the point of all of this rambling, is that I am going to try to be a better wife, a Proverbs 31 woman because I have the best husband in the world, and he deserves that.
**I doubt he will read this!